The Art of Allowing
Things aren’t always what they seem, we've heard folks say this time and again, but do we take heed? We hear, but do we listen? Life is about learning lessons, which means that we keep repeating the same patterns over and over, until we get the lesson. The reason that I decided to talk with you about the Art of Allowing is because once you release the need to control outcomes, and detach from expectations, you begin to experience a flow that will ultimately change your life!
What happens when an unstoppable force meets an immoveable object? The human mind is created. Or at least that’s how it feels sometimes. We can often be our own worst enemy. We have all of these goals, dreams and aspirations, and yet what always seems to block our path? Doubt, insecurity, lack of motivation, etc. All of these things are centered in the mind and come from “thought-resistance”, as I like to call it.
This occurs when you incessantly think resistant thoughts, and hence you are not in vibrational alignment with what you want to manifest, which is the opposite of what we want to be doing, so why are we so self-defeating? We all know the metaphor about swimming upstream, and yet we do it anyway. Bruce Lee said “Be like water, my friends.” I always like to remind myself of this, because when I imagine water, whether it is a waterfall, a river, a lake, or a stream, all of the water is always flowing in one direction, without effort. Sometimes it is moving fast, sometimes rapid, and sometimes slow, but it easily moves around objects and obstacles, and keeps going.
I often think that those who experience the worst case scenarios are molded into the teachers who show others how to overcome them. A good example is drug addiction. Many times, recovered addicts become counselors and help other addicts to overcome their substance abuse because they can directly relate to what they’re going through. I know what it’s like to want to have control of everything, and who is to say that having control, in certain areas, is even a bad thing? But I like to remind myself that there should be balance in all things. Self-control is something that you would ideally want to have all of the time. However, control over others, situations, circumstances and outcomes, is something to work toward letting go of. Master the craft of becoming "cool as a fan", watch life as if it were a movie, and just allow things to flow.
Nature vs. Nurture. Many of us learned about this in Psych 101, but what did we take away from the lesson? Do you ever apply it to areas of your own life? Growing up, there were many things outside of my control, and experiencing a number of traumatic events really caused me to want to take control and not allow these types of things to happen. Always feeling like there is something that you could have done differently will leave you with a thorned crown of guilt.
Everything starts with childhood and what we experience there. If you are told over and over as a child that you cannot do something, then eventually that becomes a thought pattern. The word “no” being repeatedly recited can really do some mental warping. We often tell ourselves “no” and we don’t even know why. I'm referring to those moments when you say “I can’t do that”, but have you ever even tried? Probably not, because as a child there were so many things that you aspired to do, and your parents said “no” without reason or explanation. Hence, leading you to not need reason or explanation to not do something, you simply feel that since you have never done it before, then you can’t.
This is a lie. Let go of it. Allow.
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